Tolerations

 The act of "tolerating" can produce positive and negative outcomes.  To have tolerance for another's view without judgment typically will yield a feeling of understanding and thus provide positive energy.  To tolerate the actions of another or others without agreement surrounding those actions can lead to the stealing of energy and thus produce negative vibes.  The allowance of  ourselves and others to cross boundaries that are held as valuable results in tolerating the loss of needed energy physically, psychologically/emotionally or spiritually.

In this article, I will focus on this loss of energy with the hopes that in regaining some needed "fuel", we will all be able to both accept and give tolerance in the more positive sense of the action.

For example, if we are given 100 points of energy per day and allow 50 of those points to be spent on tolerating crossed or crossing other's boundaries, then only 50 points remain to perform daily functions for ourselves and for the upholding of positive boundaries.  The energy will seep as anger, fear, resentment and/or many other emotions.

Here are some steps to determine which crossed boundaries you may be tolerating:

Think of each of the following boundaries and determine if you feel a negative emotion corresponding with one of them.  Write down, in each, what makes you feel "uncomfortable":

Physically:____________________________________

_____________________________________________                                                                 

Psychologically/Emotionally:__________________

_____________________________________________                             

Spiritually:___________________________________

_____________________________________________                             

Begin to form affirmations that will help you to find strength to stop the tolerating.

Affirmations help us to remember something positive about ourselves that has been lost due to crossed boundaries. When we affirm something in ourselves or others, we allow positive energy to begin flowing.  This positive energy will change the perspective on even the toughest of situations.

For example:  "I do not allow others to touch me inappropriately",  "I maintain a clutter free and neat environment", " I will not tolerate listening to gossip",  "I do not allow others to speak to me with dis-respect",  "I will not tolerate judgment in regards to my spiritual beliefs",  "I do not judge others".

I affirm the light in you!

Peace, love and joy,

Dr L