As with each new year, we are all in the process of making resolutions. Amongst the goals of losing weight, exercising more and generally taking better care of ourselves, I am going to introduce what may be a new resolution to many: listening more intently. I published the blog "The Art of Listening" many months ago. I am repeating it this week as a reminder and the first in a series of blogs regarding the importance of listening. I truly believe that if we all learned to listen at "Level 2" and definitely "Level 3", understanding would grow immensely leading to a reduction in conflict. If this sounds like something which you would like to improve, read on....

The Art of Listening

The different levels of listening are powerful in teaching how to truly hear what one is saying to another, not just through words , but through the emotions behind the words.

In Level 1 listening, we are present in the conversation 50% or less of the time because during the conversation, we are thinking about our own thoughts and what to say next. These conversations usually leave people feeling like there was "just something missing".

In Level 2 listening, we are present 100% and conversing in a volley type manner. We listen intently and then respond and vice versa. We actually hear the words and can understand that there may be emotion behind them, but fail to "see" beyond the words.

This type of listening can produce a positive sharing of energy.

In Level 3 listening, we are fully present and listening beyond the words. We hear, feel and understand what the other person is revealing to us from deep within and beyond words. Some might say we are able to see inside their soul. Interestingly, the other person may not even be aware of what they are revealing. A positive flow of energy is sure to occur.

If you tend to be a Level 1 listener, practice concentrating on another person's words rather than your thoughts. At Level 2, know that you are sharing and caring.

And realize that Level 3 listening takes practice, attention and sometimes, training. However, the enhancements in relationships that occur here are priceless.

Give someone the true gift of listening today.

If you need guidance in learning how to listen, you may want to contact me to schedule a coaching appointment!

I am here to listen,

Dr L